Do you think Marie Antoinette looked like this everyday? Without a doubt, yes!
Now, we all do not have a bevy of handmaids and ladies-in-waiting like she did, but she was magnificent because she was willing to go through the long primping sessions to look fabulous. She did it, because it made her feel fabulous. Marie did not even care for King Louis, but she did it because she wanted to be her very best. Every woman AND man should want to be their very best for themselves AND their lovers. Being your best self means you take pride in your appearance and how you appear to others. We want to give the impression that we care about ourselves and we care how others perceive us. Some people may say, "I don't care what other people think," but why not, at the very least, care about yourself? When you look your best, you feel your best. You convey a sense of confidence and earn respect from a polished appearance. It shows that you care enough to take a little more time to look better than "just good enough" to head out the door for the day. I always want to be #1. I do not mean in terms of competition with others. I merely want to be the best for myself and my spouse.
There are times in relationships where people get comfortable. I equate laziness with comfort in this case. We no longer feel a need to try, because the other person has already accepted us. When we get to the commitment phase, there seems to be a switch that flips. Now the person is ours, so why bother? We have what we want. We gain weight. We wear less than fabulous clothing. We do not shave our legs (ladies), face (men), etc. as often. We may not flat iron, curl, brush our hair as often. The frequency of showers may be fewer. What have you. The point is, we start to get lazy and change our habits. The efforts we put forth before do not seem necessary anymore. Why?
Out of respect and love for our significant other and ourselves, why would we not want to be our very best...always? Sure, there are days when you're tired or it's a weekend day. We all get a pass when we have a "lazy" day. Don't make it a habit though. Make it a habit to primp yourself and be the person your lover wanted all of those years ago. They are the reason you put forth so much effort before. Show them you care by continuing to make an effort. It is the highest compliment. Who doesn't want their significant other to brag about them? They will say to their family and friends, my wife, my husband, my girlfriend, my boyfriend is always neat and polished, prepared for whatever event pops up. It is true that people are judged initially by their appearance. Obviously, you are judged first by what people see. This is the same thing that happens in a job interview. You don't need to treat life like an ongoing interview, but treat it like you want to show your worth from the very first encounter. For some, first impressions last forever.
For relationships, a changing appearance shows you don't care. I know there are cases when both people start to slack. Be the motivation for each other. Don't allow either person to slack. Positive reinforcement is key here. Paying a compliment to your significant other makes them feel good. Feeling good results in trying harder. You want to keep hearing those compliments, so you will make an effort. Even if you don't hear it all of the time, you'll know that your significant other is thinking it.
Being your best for yourself, first and foremost, is the initial draw for others. We're the peacock with the perpetually open tail fan. If you think about it, you feel good and happy when you are your best. Why would you want that feeling to end? When your significant other notices your effort to be your best, they feel good being with you for two reasons: you're still the person that attracted them; you didn't change out of comfort, and you are attractive to others; when other people notice you, your significant other gets a confidence boost, because they're with you. It's a win-win situation. You come out in first place every time.
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